Pursuing something more than shared space

togetherI start out on the other side of the room, working through my task list while he is occupied with a show.  

What is so urgent that it pulls me away? Nothing really.

 

I tell myself that we are together in this moment. But in the same room is not the same as together, is it?

 

We are in close proximity, but we are not side-by-side. We are sharing space, but not sharing an experience.

 

This lesson I am learning with my son, I also need to learn it with my friends. Facebook, church services, grocery stores- there are many places in which I share space with people.

 

But is shared space enough? How might relationships deepen if I more intentionally pursued shared experience?

 

We cannot be together, truly together, until we move closer to one another.

 

Five Minute FridayThis post is linking up with Lisa Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday. A weekly prompt with strict instructions: write for 5 minutes and post. No over-editing. No do-overs. An practice of freedom. A way to let go of perfectionism. An exercise for some not often used writing muscles. Read more posts or link up over there. Today’s prompt was: TOGETHER. (Note: I spend only 5 minutes on the writing, but I do take a little extra time to put together the image. I can't help myself.)

Falling Over into Memories

  "Let's do sit down fall over!"

 

It happened by accident the first time, as most habits do. My boys sat down in front of the door as I was turning the knob. They leaned back, the door opened, they fell over, and the giggles began.

 

They looked up at me with smiles and stretched up their legs into the air as far as they could. "What's the password, Mommy?"

 

I started with please. Then pretty please. Then pretty please with sugar on top. Until finally, they allowed me to pass, and the laughter ensued.

 

laughter at the doorMost days when we get home, they chant their desire to play this simple game. It's not a Pinterest-worthy tradition. It doesn't involve prep on my part. It's not surrounding a special holiday. It's just a simple, everyday expression of fun and family.

 

It is a habit that tumbled into a tradition and is falling over into memories.

 

One day, my boys' legs will be too big to step over. And until then, I will let my boys be the gatekeepers of my house, so that laughter is the door that brings us inside.

 

Five Minute FridayThis post is linking up with Lisa Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday. A weekly prompt with strict instructions: write for 5 minutes and post. No over-editing. No do-overs. An practice of freedom. A way to let go of perfectionism. An exercise for some not often used writing muscles. Read more posts or link up over there. Today’s prompt was: FALL. (Full disclosure: I write the post in 5 minutes, but I take a little extra time to create a graphic to go with it. I think that's still okay according to the rules...)

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Changing How We View the Present

  There was a wonderful moment earlier today. I was dressed and ready, cup of coffee in hand, sitting in the living room. The kids weren’t up yet. My view was of a calm and clean room, with the bright greens of spring looking in on me through the window.

 

The possibilities of a peaceful morning stretched before me.

 

But before I could act on them, the kids woke up.

 

And my view changed to chaos.

 

Instead of a clean room, there was a pile of toys. Instead of quiet space to write and reflect, there was whining and neediness everywhere.

 

view of past, present, & futureThis is one of life’s great temptations: to view the past as full of good memories, the future as full of possibilities, and the present as full of inconvenience.

 

We have to consciously change our view. And see the present with the eyes with which we might view it from the future.

 

To focus on the hand-holding more than the hair-pulling. To notice the smiles more than the cries. To play and laugh and wrestle and tickle, and view those things as the joy they are while the days are upon us.

 

As Andy Bernard said at the conclusion of The Office, “I wish there was a way to know you're in the good old days before you've actually left them.”

 

So in the midst of the stresses, I want to change my view and see more. I want to see that the good days that are upon me.

Five Minute FridayThis post is linking up with Lisa Jo Baker’s Five Minute Friday. A weekly prompt with strict instructions: write for 5 minutes and post. No over-editing. No do-overs. An practice of freedom. A way to let go of perfectionism. An exercise for some not often used writing muscles. Read more posts or link up over there. Today’s prompt was: VIEW. (Full disclosure: I write the post in 5 minutes, but I take a little extra time to create a graphic to go with it. I think that's still okay according to the rules...)

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