Unmet Expectations

My husband and I have loved being marriage mentors. Our old church had a program in which people who've been married for awhile paired with engaged couples. We met regularly in the months before the wedding and had intentional conversations to help them be prepared.

We found that it blessed us as much, if not more, than it blessed them. These conversations helped us think about what was important in marriage, too.

That's why I was excited to write a guest post today for Jane Caroline for her Marriage 101 Series. Her wedding is coming soon, and is looking for advice for herself and others who are about to embark on the marriage ride. Here's a snippet of what I had to say.

Have you ever wanted to be a fly on the wall in someone else’s house?

I’m going to invite you to do just that. You are a fly on the wall of my kitchen, four years ago.

I am at the stove, stirring something in a pot. My toddler runs in and attaches himself to my leg. I look down, and tell him to go play in the other room. He doesn’t budge. He is much more interested in what Mommy is doing on the hot stove.

My body begins to get tense. I yell to another room.

“I need your help, honey.” No answer, so I raise my voice higher.

“What are you doing? I need your help in here.” Still no answer. So I shout his name. He comes into the room.

“Where were you?”

He looks surprised, “Downstairs, paying a bill.”

I roll my eyes. My voice becomes terse...

Read the rest on Jane Caroline.